In 2014, almost half of all women aged between 15 and 44 did not have children, a figure that rose from 46.5% back in 2012 to 47.6%. What does that mean? Fewer women are choosing to have kids at all or are just opting to have them later on in life. There are literally hundreds, maybe even thousands of reasons why women wouldn’t want to have kids these days, travel, career, social lives and just not wanting them being some of the biggest. The question that begs to be asked here is, why do we need to justify the reasoning behind NOT having kids at all? Why do we, as women, feel the need to come up with a reason why we don’t have kids? We wouldn’t dream of asking men the same question. It is a woman’s right to decide when and if she starts a family, and the following strong and powerful celebs have come up with a few brilliant responses to those oh-so-irritating questions.
Just Because You Can, Doesn’t Mean You Should
“Everybody with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal cords has to be an opera singer.” It’s quite the quote, right? Gloria Steinem said this famous quote on “Chelsea Lately” back in 2011, shutting up her critics quite spectacularly. She explained that as a child, her mother had been chronically mentally ill, and after devoting as much of her time and energy to one person as she could, she decided that doing the same again with a child wasn’t quite for her.
You Just Don’t Want Kids
Ellen DeGeneres led the way for childless women everywhere when she publicly declared that she and her wife, Portia de Rossi, simply didn’t want kids enough to have them. And there’s really nothing wrong with that either. The 2013 statement took the world by storm: “you have to really want to have kids, and neither of us did.” She explained that the decision NOT to have a family was just as big of a decision as to start a family, and that she didn’t want the responsibility – “I wouldn’t want to screw them up!”
Because It’s Nobody’s Business
Jennifer Aniston is a pro when it comes to silencing critics about the lack of babies in her brilliant life. Her personal and love life have been the focal point of media attention for many years, with the Brangelina debacle (her decision not to have children was very famously brought into the love-triangle), and a seemingly ‘failing’ love life ever since. Of course, we don’t really know what goes on behind closed doors, and just as the Friends star says, “no one has the right to assume. It’s quite rude, insulting, and ignorant.”
There’s really nothing wrong with being a career-girl, just as Mrs. Career-Girl herself, Oprah Winfrey, very famously pointed out. She, like many other women, knew that to have a child, something would need to be sacrificed and for this woman, it would have meant either her family took a backseat, or her career did. Neither of which she wanted to suffer. She’s an icon for a reason, and her lack of a family is perhaps one of them. Her opinions are definitely ones to take into account – there is a lot of sacrifices necessary to raise a family and for some women, just like some men, the sacrifices just aren’t worth it.
Because Your Childhood Was Bad
For some women, their childhood was traumatic enough to prevent them from wanting to re-experience it, even with children of their own. TV personality, Chelsea Handler, not only admitted to believing she wouldn’t make a good mother, but even came out publicly to admit she’d had a termination at the age of 16, and it was a decision she hadn’t regretted. It was a brave admission, and one that many women all over the world nodded in agreement with.
There’s No Rush
These days women are having children later and later and Sarah Silverman is just one of the famous ladies who had openly admitted to just wanting to put off the idea of having kids until she was sure she’d done everything in her life she wanted to do before she finally settled down. It’s not a bad plan, one that is a reality for some women and is pushing back the average age that women have their first child. Once upon a time, the baby-boom was occurred when a female was in her early-twenties but these days we’re seeing it later and later, getting closer to thirty and even beyond.
For some women, just like Jennifer Westfeldt, the what-if’s are just too much to run the risk of doing it. If you’re not sure whether or not you want to have a family, and there isn’t compelling enough you to make the decision either way, actually following through with it wouldn’t be wise. What if you did it and it wasn’t for you? Her famous actor another half, Jon Hamm, doesn’t seem to have a problem with her statement to the “New York Times” back in 2012, but we can’t help but think that sometimes you just need to face your fears?
She’s since had a baby, but back when Zooey Deschanel didn’t have a child, she referred to the string of endless jabs at her childless life as “obnoxious”, and that it was almost “unacceptable” for a woman NOT to want kids but the decision to have them was just fine. On the other hand, a man wouldn’t be barraged with further questions if he were to decide he didn’t want children, whereas a woman would be met with statements such as “you’ll change your mind when the time / man / situation is right!”